Dru’s New World

I actually had to leave my Cubicle this morning, I usually only do that to get Coffee or to get rid of the used Coffee
I am sitting at my desk and all of a sudden this bright light started to make it really hard to see my Computer Monitor, I had to get up and investigate. I looked and it was coming from the window on the other side of the room, As I walked around the Seas of Cubes in the office I noticed that it was actually coming from outside the window, it was the sun. My friend is coming back from his long journey around the world, I have been coming into work in the dark and have been going home in the dark I forgot what it was like to feel the warmth of my friend looking down at me. I hope he will stick around for awhile.
This actually reminded me of one of my favorite blogs by a guy in Northern Norway He still has a few days till the big guy shines down on him.

It is amazing what kind of trip you can get on the internet. This trip I just took was amazing. There are a few sites that I try and look at everyday when I get some slack time at work and then there are times where I just want my mind to wander. Today was one of those wandering moments that I wasn’t planning on. I got on the internet to read up on what is going on in the world. I of course like hearing people Bitch about things so I had to visit DOUG anyone that has enough complaints for almost everyday has definatly got a more exciting life than me. But then I recieved an email from a friend asking if I saw some research on WebMD. This was research released around a month ago out of Germany and I saw it on Fox News. So I ended up going over to WebMD and read what they had to say, I posted my thoughts on my other Blog
Of Course you can not get to WebMD and not find yourself reading a bunch of stuff… From there I went to an Article about Alzhimers Disease then to something about Lie’s men tell, then to how to keep a marriage, then to advice on Marriage, then on and on and on. Article after article of pointless crap.
The last site was almost like taking a very large circle around the web, this circle started at
Cancer slow down, to Dogs being able to sniff Cancer…

That was a fun day at work

I think women should have the same opportunities as men, Raising two daughters I have come to the belief that women are smarter and more able at a lot of things than men. I also believe that men should have the same opportunities as women, Children raised by a man should be treated the same as children treated as women.

I recently went to court the other day for Child Support, Again… It has now been 18 months since I was granted custody of my youngest daughter. We have Joint Custody with Primary Physical custody awarded to me. Since there are 4 states between us there is no everyother weekend visitation it all goes off of seperating holidays and school vacation. 18 months without child support, 18 months of paying for a 3 bedroom apartment so each of my daughters has their own personnal space. 18 months of $700 per month in Pre School and Daycare tuitions = Thats $12600…

For Court we both had to do Financial Paperwork and according to that and research of how the state figures out child support I have come up with the figure that she should be paying is $1200/month. I am asking the court to provide me Child Support of $1000 per month to help cover Daycare, Preschool, gymnastics and Figureskating costs. I have been turned down four times. Well I will take that back. I haven’t been turned down, I have been told that we need to pospone another month for the past 5 months. Will I ever get child support?

The Ex-wifes lawyer is good at one thing, posponements. I have been told, She should not have to pay since she lives so far away and she has to pay phone bills, and travel costs to see her daughter. My answer, She is the one that moved so far away. I have been called a loser because I am trying to take money from a woman and a man should be able to make enough to provide all the great things a child needs. This last time, her lawyer actually got up in court and said that I do not deserve this money because I should be able to get a higher paying job as an Information Technology Professional. My answer to this, She is on TV every night working for a major network, She will make a lot more than me. I might get offers making almost 2 times what I make now but those would cause me to travel, move or work very long hours. I work 80 hours every 2 weeks, that is it, no more no matter what. To me that is neccesity so I have all that off time to spend with my daughters. The latest job I was offered was 3 times what I make now but it would have made me move to New York City, at least 50 hours a week and on average 6-10 days a month out of town.

Now either way, I am a parent of a little girl that wants to learn Figure Skating, I had to pull her out of the classes so I could pay my electric bill. I am a parent and I make all my decisions 100% with my daughters in mind. I do not deserve to get child support because I am a father?

When you go to family court it is usually very stressful anyway. When you go as a father you are the most sterotypical, Dead beat, tempermental, abusive man that anyone has met. Getting custody is a major accomplishment and you can tell a lot about a mother if the court grants custody to the father, look at Britney. But as soon as the custody is over you are back in the courts eyes for a worthless loser that just wants to screw the ex-wife over.

Why don’t women have to pay child support?

I am sitting in court right now and of course my mind is thinking about the wedding 5 years ago that brought me into Divorce Court today. Seperated for over 2 years now and we are still dealing with all of this crap.

I am reminded of the last wedding I attended as a guest. Actually, as I think about it is the only wedding that I have been to where I was not in it, as the groom or in the wedding party. It was actually pretty relaxing.

One of the relatives and I sat there at the reception talking about the excitement of wedding while going though a divorce. I disagreed with a lot of the things he was saying. He kept bad mouthing marriage and how horrible the concept is.

My cousin (the Bride) ended up over hearing some of his comments. I could not handle it, here is my baby cousin on her wedding day over hearing some bitter guy talking about something that this young lady was dreaming about forever. She was happy and I couldn’t let anything upset that.

I ended up taking my cousin aside and telling her that although I am a 2 time divorcee and I have sworn off marriage I was excited for her.

This world is a rough one and fighting all the little battles we as humans face is tough and draining on the soul. Marriage is saying to someone tha you want to take on your own battles and help them fight the world with their battles. Marriage is an institution that is amazing if both parts combine powers to take on the world. The problem is when the two parties involved fight their seperate battles and disregard the other person or turn it into a fight against this team mate you have selected.

When someone is part of a marriage they sometimes deny that they have weaknesses and need help with things in the world that are attacking them. They end up hiding these battles from their partner and when the battle turns into a war they forget that the ally is waiting there as backup incase you need help or maybe just provide a little obsticle so you can rest and be refreshed for another battle. The goal in a marriage is to provide support and assistance in all you do as a couple or as individuals. Managing each battle as two is so much easier than as individuals as long as you don’t get in each others way.

It is important to know that when a person in a marriage has the ability to communicate with their partner about everything then marriage is a wonderful amazing thing. The problem always exists when things are kept from each other and the battles of life start beating you.

I am not sure if she understood this and I am not sure if it makes sence to anyone other than me. But I hope that no one else has to feel the pain that I am feeling right now as I am waiting to get called in front of the judge.

I have only been bogging for a few months and never had the writing experience to make it interesting. I have been meeting some very interesting people and some very great writers since the begining of my blog.

I have seen that there are some who do this tag with their Blog friends where the tag someone with links to their site and in return they get a link from somone else.
I have never been a part of this and never thought that I was a big enough part of any community to be part of it.

I was looking at my favorite community today and noticed my name on someone elses post.
This was not only a post for the new game of tag but with rules that make it a Compliment for me.

I was selected as a Victim that has to Select 5 more Victims and then I have to give 3 Writing Tips that have helped me. If anyone has read my writing then they know I can not give tips of my own. But I will try.
I am also not sure if this was suppose to be for those that belong to this Community butlooks like most the people I get my advise from in the community are tagged already so I am reaching out of the domain to some of my other friends that may enjoy this game.
So the next writing tips to come will be from:
Natalie - who has some great written articles
Kelly - Freelace writer
Doug - Just some funny stuff
Thomas - Has my favorite blog at the moment
And Grace Who like me just writes to write, You can tell she just loves it.

Now I have choosen the 5 targets, next is the writting tips from me…
1. Write what you feel and hopefully the reader will feel it also.
2. Don’t over think or it will get confusing and wordy
3. Who cares about my spelling mistakes, my readers don’t care neither do I… If it is that important to you then use a spell check.

I do want to thank Chronic Complainer for including me in this, it means a lot to me.